Can working harder to provide for your family actually push your marriage toward divorce?

Pesa Shayo, author and co-founder of Live Your Best Marriage, joins Joey Pinz for a revealing conversation about cultural expectations, family loyalty, emotional connection, and the discipline required to make a marriage last.

Born and raised in Kenya, Pesa grew up believing that a husband’s primary responsibility was to provide financially. After moving to the United States and marrying Whitney, he discovered that being a good provider wasn’t the same as being a present husband.

That lesson became painfully clear when Pesa was working double nursing shifts while Whitney was struggling after the birth of their third daughter. Their marriage reached a breaking point.

Rather than give up, they began rebuilding their relationship through communication, intentional habits, and a new understanding of what it means to be partners. Their experience eventually inspired Live Your Best Marriage, an organization helping cross-cultural Christian couples navigate loyalty conflicts, family expectations, and relationship challenges.

🌟 Top 3 Highlights:

When providing isn’t enough: Why emotional presence, listening, and quality time matter as much as financial security.

Marriage versus family loyalty: How to establish healthy boundaries with parents and in-laws while respecting the families that raised you.

Discipline builds lasting love: How intentional conversations, date nights, family traditions, and consistent habits can rebuild friendship and connection.